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Because I Said I Would… Building Self-Trust

Because I Said I Would…Building Self-Trust

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We are all on a journey of some sort.  Living the Creative Life is about looking inside and seeing where your journey is leading you. Recently, my journey has reminded me about the value of building self-trust.  Building self-trust is a powerful gift for a Creative to give themselves because it often means they can more fully share their gifts with the World.

Tips for Building Self-Trust

Here is one of my favorite tips to help Creatives stand up and say to themselves and to the World…. I am doing it because I said I would.

Start a Conversation

In college as I was studying theatre, I discovered how powerful it could be to have a conversation on paper with myself when I wasn’t so sure I could follow through on my ideas or keep my commitments to myself and others.  Inside my journal, I would begin a deep talk from the part of myself that needed to be heard and let another part hear them out, even going so far as to answer the first part back in the voice of a loving, nurturing parent or creative guide.  Over time, I began to have those conversations more subtly in my head, and now, they are part of my daily self-awareness.  Occasionally, when I get stuck in the I-can’t’s or I’ll-put-it-off-til-tomorrow’s, I get real with myself on paper.  And then I dive into trying to understand the stuck part by listening from a place of love and compassion.  I began calling them Inner World Conversations.

The Inner World Conversations go something like this….

 

First inner voice: I am not sure about this. I know I said I would do it... but it just might be too much for me. I am not sure I will stick with it over the long haul. And what will happen if I give up or worse, What if......they hate me? ... Second inner voice: I know this is something important to you. You felt so honored to be invited to this super special project. They must have known how super special you are. All those fears and worries are a normal part of growing. But so is saying yes to your heart. I hope you will say yes. I will be here the whole way to help you figure out what is the next right step.

If you would like to build your because I said I would Self-Trust Muscle, get in touch with the Reluctant Part inside by starting your own Inner World Conversation. Begin by using two different pens, one for each inner voice.  Ask yourself what the Reluctant Part (the fearful, stuck, little, hurt, unsure part) of you needs to say, and then invite that part to share.  When you feel you have expressed the first layer of what you need to say, stop and read it back to yourself.  Don’t edit.  Don’t over think.  Pick up the other pen and invite the Heart-Centered Part (loving, compassionate, listening, peace-making part) of yourself to respond in a supportive way.

The back and forth can go on several times as the Reluctant Part finds a sense of being able to fully express itself and the Heart-Centered Part discovers how to help it feel heard and supported. The goal isn’t necessarily to make yourself do something, it is to build trust with yourself.  As a Creative, the more you foster a space of listening for difficult emotions like fear, doubt, and worry, the more you can likely build an Inner World that helps shift those emotions to deeper levels of peace, enthusiasm, passion, and ease.  This can help shift an automatic kind of living to an intentional, self-supportive way of being.  Lots of magic happens there!

Share Your Self-Trust Ah-ha’s

I would love to hear your ah-ha’s around self-trust.  Do you find yourself struggling there?  If not, what are your secrets to building your because I said I would Self-Trust Muscle?  Let’s continue the conversation in the comments.

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Rachel Payne with Creativity Tribe. Life Coach, Expressive Arts Facilitator, artist, spirituality, creativity

Tune into Your Dream

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“Tune into your dreams,” he said.  Sitting with one of my mentors at Cafe Calypso, whispering between the words of the folk songs that come wafting by, I am caught up in his words.  I feel a bubble form around us.  People float around the bubble but never stop to engage.  I am grateful for this time with him, alone.  His thoughts make my mind expand.  His heart opens me to more fully loving this life that we have shared for nearly 30 years.  Dr. Erwin was once my college freshman English professor and is now my mentor, my friend, and my muse.

He talks to me of my dreams and says, “Many people are never confronted by their dreams.”  The word CONFRONT hits me hard.  Confronted by a dream?

As a Life Coach and Sacred Creativity Guide, I often work with Creatives who play with dreams that are whispering to them.  Dreams do that.  They start with a whisper and become louder and louder.  Sometimes they become loud because they need our attention.  I also think they grow in strength as we give them attention. The more we tune into a dream the more the dream grows and blooms.

Families gathered at the Pop-Up Sanctuary for the Creative SpiritThe Pop-up Sanctuary for the Creative Spirit invites participants to “Tune Into Your Dreams.”

Tune into Your Dream

Are your dreams speaking to you?  Whispering?  Are they speaking loudly?  What would happen, do you think, if you turned the volume up?  What if you invited your dream to confront you? Would you open yourself to it?

I invite you to play with opening up to your dream.  Dreamwork is powerful. Ask your dream to show you the way, to show you the next right step to move towards fully embodying it.  Invite yourself to tune into your dream and lean into your own amplified existence.

Life Coach Rachel Payne
Rachél Payne, MS is the heART and soul behind Creativity Tribe.  She is a Life Coach, Sacred Creativity Guide, and Arts Educator. Rachél’s passion is help others fall in love with themselves and their life using creativity and spirituality.  She lives in Corpus Christi, Texas (just off the Gulf of Mexico) where she offers sacred creativity workshops and one-on-one sessions crafted to her client’s needs.  She also works with Creatives and Wanna-Be-Creatives via the internet. (Note….we are all creative, some just don’t yet fully own it.) You can find her under the Creativity Tribe handle on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter…and nearly everyday live and on replay through Periscope.

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How Creativity is Like a Good Massage

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Many, many moons ago, while working at an art museum as an Arts Educator, I decided to study massage therapy.  When I told the museum director, he looked at me baffled.  He told me he thought the idea of a creative professional also doing massage felt like two disconnected ideas.  It seemed to me to make perfect sense, so I took a moment to explain to him how creativity is like a good massage.

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I have been thinking of this recently as I find my creativity cramping up, as it often does for Creatives.  When a massage therapist works on a muscle, she loosens it up, then often will apply a bit of pressure to the sweet spot (also known as a pressure point).  The pressure point is much like a magical button that will release the whole of the muscle after just a little work.

She looks for it with her hands, and when she finds it, she applies pressure.  She will notice the muscle squirming, quivering, and resisting. She can back off a bit or even apply a bit more pressure.  If she pushes too hard, the muscle won’t relax.  If she doesn’t give enough, she may miss getting all she can release. But if she finds a balance, she will notice the muscle melting like chocolate under the warmth of her hand.

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Creativity that is all kinked up can be released in this same way.  It requires a bit of pressure to get it to give in and get moving again.  Not enough pressure, and we can stay stuck for some time.

What does getting unstuck creatively look like?

We can get stuck in our creativity in a number of ways.  We get in a rut, doing the same thing and hoping for different results.  We always paint with the same colors.  We always sit at our favorite desk.  We look to the same things for inspiration.  Or, we expect the same results out of a process we are bored with.  We have been drawing trees for years.  They are beautiful.  Maybe people even know us for our trees, so the fact that we are thinking about dance or poetry feels like a risk so big we are shut down.The sun shines between the shade of dark branches...like gratitude in our lives

What do I mean by pressure?

Applying pressure can look like a few different things.  I think sitting and looking at the block is a great place to start.  Who wants to sit with that?  We want to get beyond the creative block, not look at it.  But getting quiet and saying… What is this block about? … can give a voice to the block that will give us insight or inspiration.

Applying pressure can also be about throwing another element into the arena.  (In massage, it is the finger or hand.)  But for creativity it may be exploring the same subject but with different color or adding collage to your painting process.  It may be changing the beat in music or starting your cooking session with prayer.  Adding a new element forces the same old thing to take a new shape…..gives us a new perspective.

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My favorite way to add a bit of pressure is to invite someone else into the picture.  Yes…we can always massage ourselves.  But…when we have someone else, it is way better!

When we are creating, we can add a person by co-working.  I love painting with others or collaborating.  Sometimes we can work on the same project or even just working side by side is energizing in a way that we don’t get alone.  (Note: always make sure the person you create with is emotionally safe for you.  Take care of your Inner Creative.)

Scheduling a show can be great pressure because it adds an audience.  You can decide to take place in a group art show, an open mic, or even just a show-and-tell at your home.  It creates a sense of urgency that nearly always gets creativity dancing under your finger until it melts into sweet chocolatey flow!

Partnering with a Life Coach who understands the creative process can also be a great way to add a person into the process.  As a Life Coach and Sacred Creativity Guide, I am able to honor where you are while helping you move out of that space and into the next phase of your journey.

I would love to hear some of your tricks and tips for getting your creativity flowing by using gentle pressure.  And if that has been counter productive, I would love to hear that too.  It is great to learn from each other.  The Creativity Tribe is listening!

Rachel Payne with Creativity Tribe. Life Coach, Expressive Arts Facilitator, artist, spirituality, creativity

 

One Little Word 2016

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One Little Word for 2016

I am always looking for creative ways to help me guide my life in the direction of my heart, my passions, and my dreams.  In 2012 when I discovered Ali Edward‘s One Little Word project, I delighted in the idea.  The practice has become an annual tradition for me, my family, and much of the Creativity Tribe. It is an important part of my work as a Life Coach and Sacred Creativity Guide.

Choosing My One Little Word

In years past, my one word for the year has come to me in various ways.  It isn’t uncommon for it to come to me weeks before the end of the year.  This year, the days ticked away and nothing felt right.  Finally, on the night before New Year’s Eve, I felt my mind playing with a new idea.

I realized there were a few thing in my life that I felt were important to having a healthy, enjoyable human experience that I just wasn’t doing.  If pressed to answer why, I wouldn’t easily be able to say, but I could feel something was holding me back from my best life.  I could also feel certain limiting beliefs that were ready to be challenged.  I wanted the shifting of these blocks to be the focus of the year.  Wouldn’t life feel so much more free if they were!?

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One Little Word to Create Great Shift

I played with various words…. elevate, radiate, shift….then I felt transcendence.  I was laying in bed, in the dark.  The letters were swirling around with the sounds in my imagination, and transcendence became… trance-n-dance. I thought it was funny.  I welcomed the new perspective.  That shift is what I was asking for.

What does trance-n-dance mean to me?

One week in mid-November a friend, Phyllis Lejeune, came to stay with us.  Phyllis is affectionately referred to by a few dear friends as a Cajun Mystic.  She is funny, a wonderful storyteller, sage, and artist of life.  She also facilitates Trance Dance.

Phyllis Lejeune, Trance Dance, Cajun Mystic

My mind drifted to the first moments of the Trance Dance ceremony with Phyllis.

I am blindfolded.  I know where I am but can no longer see my surroundings.  Others are around me, also blindfolded.  I have just breathed my intention into the bandana which is now shutting out the light.  The music begins to offer a beat, and Phyllis tells us to remain seated until our bones call us into movement.  I wait.  Then the bones begin to move.  I am journeying in the dark, body moving: twitching, swaying, bouncing, writhing, releasing, inviting, crying, laughing, living.  And then silence, stillness, ….and yes, transcendence.

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Sometimes life feels like this.  Moving blindly in the dark with just an intention and my bones to get me through to the other side. This is the essence of intentional living.  And if I am lucky, I discover something about the self and existence along the way.

So this is my practice for 2016….explore transcendence as trance-n-dance.  Yes, I will be dancing blindfolded on occasion. I will also be exploring the more existential, symbolic dance in the dark, the LIFE dance of sacred creativity….with only my inner light to guide me.

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Do you have an annual tradition for directing your life?  A tradition for creative living?  I would love to hear about it.  Share in the comments below or join our conversation over at the Creativity Tribe Facebook Group.

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