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Minding the Mind, Mending the Heart

EveryMomentSome of the deepest disappointments in life are those times when we have let ourselves down.  Standing by our dreams, we watch them get smaller and smaller as the voice of doubt and fear win over some opportunity to bloom.  It happens to all of us in one form or another. Those shared human experiences tug at our hearts and are often created in the mind.

Recently I have been taking on the voices in my head with a fierceness I have seldom felt from myself.  I am focusing on a whole cluster of issues that rise up for me that I think of as a Life Theme.  The Life Theme seems to be a course of study that has accompanied me into this life. I work a little on it and discover some resolution, then it reforms with a slight change so that I can experience the theme again.  Each time I learn something about myself, often discovering gifts of the spirit along the way. I bet we all have a Life Theme or two to fully take in over the course of our life.

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Some people may have Life Themes surrounding safety or struggling with lack, others keep coming back to the theme of belonging or perhaps some other shadowy difficulty.  It usually doesn’t take much to pull together the nuance of a Life Theme, figuring out a precise thread that travels through the life can be a bit more of a challenge.  Once you have a name for it though, it can help you identify when it knocks on your door.

The theme I am working on currently has to do with creativity.  If I know much about anything, it is creativity.  And yet…. the shadow side of creativity still challenges me.  I love that this place I feel so grounded in also has more growth to offer me.  And so I am digging deep to explore the ways creativity shows up in my life in a less grounded way….where it could be more rooted and secure.

How do I know where those places are?  I listen for the fear and frustration.  I listen for the places where my heart aches.  Those are the areas of my Creative Spirit that are asking for resolution.

I think it is important to point out that creativity is more than just something pretty we put on our wall or listen to on our iPod.  It is our ability to form relationships with self, others, and spirit. It is our relationship with abundance or lack.  Creativity is about making meaning and crafting life.

Once I discover an area where creativity is kinked up, I set out to open up the stuck places.  There are lots of ways to work with this, but for me currently, I have been minding my mind.  Every morning as I wake up, I let my mind wander into the fear.  Then I pretend to wipe it away and begin to imagine what life would be like if the fear magically went away.  I play with that new reality for awhile.  Then, I encourage myself to believe that if I can imagine the new reality than it is quite possible.

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I have been doing this for a few months now and my life is reflecting those changes.  My heart is blooming with possibility.

 Creatively yours…

Rachel Payne Life Coach

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This Sense-sational Life {Self}

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This Sense-sational Life is a blogging series that explores the senses as a way of cultivating a more mindful, connected life.  This week’s post features guest blogger SuziCate, otherwise known as the Water Witch’s Daughter. She encourages us to consider the Sense of Self. 

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Sense of Self

I consider myself a creative gypsy. I have drifted my way through writing, beading, quilting, collage, photography, crochet, felting, painting, and embroidery. My soul communicates through my art, and my art nourishes my soul. While I have wandered I never settled into a single form. It took years for me to realize what I lacked was a sense of self.

Finding my sense of self came down to knowing myself on an intimate level. I had to let go of my fears. I had to stifle the voices that said I was too sensitive and needed to control my emotions. I had to allow myself to feel without limitations. All the while I kept roaming. Then I stumbled upon art quilting. This allowed me to incorporate all these arts and develop my own style. After all, I am a storyteller at heart, why not visually through fiber?

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Nature inspires me, and hiking defines my sense of self. I feel freedom among the elements. The mountains and sea speak riddles and draw me into their mysteries. The taste of salt air and wild berries intoxicate me.  I bend and soar with the wind as it whistles through the tall pines. The river sings the stresses of my life away, and I settle into my bones. Pungent aromas of cedar and bayberry transport me to other worlds. The tones and expanse of earth and sky blend until I don’t know where one begins and the other ends. My heart holds this secret, a truth hidden in time.

When I’m not throwing my restless energy into creative outlets or able to answer the call to climb mountains or swim the sea, how do I nourish my sense of self? I allow myself to own my feelings.  I light candles. I listen to music. I practice mindfulness. I notice the beauty of life’s simple pleasures. Being grateful open my heart.

I pamper myself. Essential oils offer me a fresh system of self-care. I reap the benefits of detoxing baths and massages. I scent my living space with sandalwood; the oil I feel empowers and completes my sense of self. Sandalwood soothes the soul of the wounded child I sometimes am and transforms me into the sensual woman who’s strong enough to own her emotions. These spiritual experiences ground me to the earth and connect me to the heavens.

These days I take time to care for my creative soul.  I no longer hush her but welcome her voice. When I nurture my sense of self my soul comes out to play…and everybody loves a play date!

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SuziCate is a weaver of words, a spinner of tales, and a dabbler of art. She spends her free time hiking and canoeing, simply enjoying the gifts of nature. She enjoys researching genealogy, especially family lore. She has published short stories, memoirs, and poetry. She is currently working on a novel and can be found at www.suzicate.wordpress.com or  www.suzicatepoetry.wordpress.com.

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Where do SuziCate’s thoughts take you? How do they inspire or guide you to experience life through the senses? Do you have ways you connect with your Sense of Self?  The Creativity Tribe wants to know. Drop a line in the comments or write a blog post in response and share the link.

This Sense-sational Life {courage}

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This Sense-sational Life is a blogging series that explores the senses as a way of cultivating a more mindful, connected life.  This week’s post touches on a Sense of Courage and how it can shift over ones lifetime…especially in regards to our courage to be creative.

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It starts with remembering that something of you was forgotten….somehow some essence of the self hidden.

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 And in a shift from hurried to a somewhat slower pace or perhaps found in-between breaths where you wait for the next exhalation, you hear it.

 It calls out from someplace far away, the desire to bring what was lost forth. But it is not so far away that it can’t be heard. Not so far away that it can’t be felt, and certainly not so far away that it can’t be reached.

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That’s when you check yourself….that’s when you sense it….courage.

Yes, it is beckoning you to a cause, to a personal revolution, to a single-focused commitment to something more dear than you will ever commit to….to yourself. Yes, in the course of your life you will commit to others. To child, lover, parent, to the stranger who needs what you have to offer, to a cause that needs a champion…..

but none of these get full value, if you don’t first commit to self. If you never commit, you can never give them the most lovely of gifts… you.  You can not model for them how to fully love, to fully trust, to fully give and receive.

It is all very lofty, this talk of courage and places in the self.  But it is also very real when we feel disconnected from something so vital.  If we are honest, it is dark and dank like the earth because it is a story that we bury inside of us. Often, we put our creativity away sometime in childhood and if we are lucky, we find the courage to stand up for it while it makes its way to the surface.

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The thing about courage is that it can be tricky.  Say for example that we put our creativity away because it was threatened. Perhaps what we expressed was criticized or never given the attention it needed.  Putting it away to protect it is a way of being courageous.  So where in the story does the courage get screwed up?

It happens as we grow up.  When we were young  any power we had was allowed to us by the adults around us. Our lives were tied to their will.  And as sometimes happens with humans, we may have gotten hurt or misunderstood.  Often just as a course of  living. We send our little creative spirits into hiding if they don’t feel safe.  Then, as an adult, if we find the creativity is calling out to be recognized, we have the opportunity to assure its safety.

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What has changed?  We are in charge of our lives. We have the choice to set boundaries and create safety. That is one of the great honors of adulthood….we get to create our lives!

And we are given a Sense of Courage to help us get there.

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The focus for This Sense-sational Life this week is cultivating a Sense of Courage.  Where can you envision yourself stepping more fully into your courage, setting a boundary to make yourself feel safe?  The Creativity Tribe would LOVE to hear from you in the comments. I will keep the conversation going on the Creativity Tribe FB Page.

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All is Well

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One day several years ago as I was sitting in one of those over-stuffed chairs that used to be scattered through out the local Barnes & Noble, I began a light conversation with a man…a stranger.  I don’t remember much of what we talked about, but I do remember how he ended the conversation. He simply said, “All is well.”  And walked away.

All is well.

It echoed in the space where he had been sitting, lingered there for a long while until it found its way into my journal.

All is well.

I carried the words around for me for quite awhile, pondering them.  What if….All is Well?

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I have needed All is Well lately.  A series of mishaps has left me feeling off balanced the last month.  Scattered around me is the evidence that All is Well, but in my core, in my gut, All does not feel Well. All feels, well, off!

I could list the mishaps and give you plenty of good stories to elaborate on what has me feeling this way, but I really don’t want to do that. Not because I don’t want to share, but more because I want All to be Well. I want balance and peace.  Some of my mishaps have not been settled yet though.  There are some very personal happenings that are in limbo, that will only find resolution in time and which I can do absolutely nothing to truly help.  I both love and hate this predicament. I hate it for its discomfort and love it because it is one of the characteristics that makes life what it is.

This ambiguity is life.  This turning of my stomach in the middle of the night is life. This preoccupation with the past to make sense of the present in spite of a possible future is life. I feel it because I care about for others and for myself. I feel it because what was once lost is now found….again.  I feel it because I am alive.

Even in the pain…..All is Well.

Even in the not knowing…..All is Well.

Even when there is no end in sight….All is Well.

All is Well. All is Well.

 

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All is Well.

 

Thank you to Rosemary of Reflections of My World for inspiring this response as part of This Sensa-ational Life.  Please have a peek at Rosemary’s post and discover what a Sense of Well Being is for you.  The linky is open through the end of this week.  

 

 

This Sense-ational Life {well being}

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This Sense-ational Life is a blogging series that explores the senses as a way of cultivating a more mindful, connected way of life.  This week’s post features guest blogger (and dear friend of mine) Rosemary from Reflections of My World.  Rosemary’s site highlights areas of her life, including her love of photography and her mindful, courageous journey to wellness after being diagnosed with an illness of her thyroid.  She is living a Sense-ational Life one day at a time and inspiring others to do the same.    

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Sense of WELL BEING
What does that mean to you and me?

The dictionaries say well-being is a noun and that it is a good or satisfactory condition or existence.

We can have money and security, and even perceived advantages over others at times, but that may not truly serve our best interest or well-being.  Did we have to give up a part of ourselves (our uniqueness) in order to gain that wealth and security?  If so, we may not really be contributing to our own sense of well-being.

What are some of the little things that add to your sense of well-being? Is there fluff that you could eliminate that would allow you to replace it with something that validates your well-being?  Perhaps practice, saying NO to others when you know that request to serve or provide something just doesn’t feel right to you.  Trust your instincts.  REMEMBER, you can always say, “Sorry, I have a prior commitment.”  They do not have to know that the commitment is to take care of your own sense of well-being.

For me – it would be a balance of what is important to me.  To look forward to those daily tasks that allows me to truly enjoy “being in the moment and knowing that all is well with me”. I honestly can say my well-being has never been better.  This is me just after a haircut/style last week after a chunk of about 7 inches of my hair broke off after a radiation treatment. Relatives wanted me to go short, but I knew that didn’t feel right, so I did what would nourish my sense of well-being.  I think it shows too.

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Here’s hoping you will take a few minutes and access your sense of well-being!

My website has also added a real sense of well-being for me. To be able to express my passions and thoughts and not worry what others may think.  Please feel free to visit my blogs and many pictures at Reflections of My World.

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Sharing in This Sense-ational Life: Complete the Circle

If Rosemary’s post inspires thoughts about how you can or do experience a Sense of Well Being in your own life, I invite you to share your thoughts in a post and enter that post address in the linky below.  Make sure to link back to this post so your readers can discover Rosemary’s thoughts on well being and wellness too. Then, check back for others (including myself) who will be writing about This Sense-ational Life.
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Choosing this Moment

Most of us say to ourselves, “I want to be more creative. I want to do more art.”

Today is in front of you. This moment is begging for you to choose IT, shouting, “Pick me. Pick me.”

And when you do, you are really picking yourself.

It is just that simple.

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