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Secrets to Shifting Out of Difficulty and Into Delight

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When we start talking about seeing life’s difficulties with a positive spin, I know from personal experience there can be a part of the self that wants to throw a hand up in the air and turn its back on the whole conversation.

 Girl friend, these troubles are mine!  I came to them the hard way…with bumps, bruises, and plenty of tears.  And you just want me to push them aside? Sister, puh-leez!

It may sound like I am exaggerating, but I have heard it from friends and clients too.  Something in us needs to hold onto the dramas and traumas of life, and when someone suggests we move away from them ….especially the big, hairy, scary ones….. we stand our ground.

I have shared over the last several months about working through my big stuck-in-place stories, dealing with the illness and death of loved ones, facing personal fears and those the same scary-world scenarios we all see on TV.  The more I practice moving out of the pain and into the possibility, the easier it is getting.  Here are some of my secrets.

Start where you are.  If you feel yourself digging in with both heels, staying close to the pain….for whatever reason….let that be where you start your journey towards healing.  Giving yourself permission to honor the hurt can often be an important step in eventually finding relief.

Invite your creativity in.  Honoring the hurt with creativity helps you take something that feels stuck and brings movement to it without disregarding the part of you that needs the experience recognized.  It also opens a door to a new perspective.  The options are endless for how to bring creativity into a difficulty. They range from journaling to dance, include music, gardening, or just getting quiet and going inward.

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A Favorite Technique. One of my faves right now is to imagine that some thing greater than myself…. that could be a Higher Power, helping spirit, imagined healing hand, angel, saint, or some part of myself more wise… that some Guide  has a gift for me that comes from the situation I am stuck in.  I get quiet, close my eyes, and let my helper hand me a box that will show what the gift is.  I open it and look inside.  Sometimes it takes me awhile, may even takes more than one visit to see and understand what is inside the box.  I am patient.  I try to never force it.  Try to let it come more from my creativity and less from my willful mind. The gifts are often simple and nearly always, if I am willing to receive the gift, I find them comforting and healing.

An Organic, Intuitive Process.  Moving from difficult and into delight is a process.  The most helpful part in my opinion is the decision itself.  Will I choose to be happy?  How long will I stay with all the hard feelings the difficulty brings?  Could I redefine myself as one of those people who bounces back…who feels the feelings, listens to that guiding spirit within myself that knows how to move towards happiness then resets the path to lead me there?  I have decided to be that person.

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The Ultimate Reward.  I have been exploring this for about 8 months, this transforming of those dense feelings into life lessons and morsels of meaningfulness.  The process leads to all kinds of rewards.  I am learning so much about myself and the way life works.  But the ultimate reward is a sense of strength I feel from making my back to peace when life brings situations that feel difficult.  I am discovering that I am resilient and that sometimes what feel like a pickle of a situation was really something beautiful in disguise.  This is the key for me to staying on top of emotional wellness.

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Heart Wisdom

Heart Notes
Hearts are tender….
They open and close like flowers chasing the sun,
resting quietly in the shadow.
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Hearts are strong, resilient, and re-storing.
Hearts are vessels which hold love, dispense love, receive love.
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They quiver gratefully in the presence of grace and resonate with courage
when witnessing the need of another which is in any degree greater than our own need.
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Tonight my heart is all of this….quivering, blooming, courageous, and profoundly tender.
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For this night’s sleep, I will cradle it in the rocking of my chest as I breathe
and marvel at its ability to be all I need it to be.
Deep peace…..
Rachel Payne Life Coach

Giving Heart

Yesterday I wrote about this yearning I had to give more mindfully this year and to give in new ways.  Then, I turned around and found a beautiful affirmation of giving reflected to me by a dear friend.  I feel extremely blessed to have a very special circle of women who have been by my side as we have together discovered the exquisite nature of being a woman.  Milena Worsham of Running Buffulo Journeys is one of those special ladies.

Our circle began forming about ten or so years ago.  We were all coming into our thirties or would be before long and were on fire with a desire to build a unique community. More than anything, I think we wanted a place in our small-ish South Texas town where we could practice being the grand creatures we were destined to become.  We each found our way to a center on the edge of downtown and one by one opened shops that circled around a courtyard.  Milena  had The Lotus Cup.  Irene Jaan who shares as the  had a shop called Yin Yang Fandango that specialized in amazing clothes, jewelry, and musical instruments with a world vibe.  Jessica of WildWood Naturals and I shared a groovy movement studio called Creative Spirit Studio that was connected to my massage business.  Together, along with the amazing community of people we served, we found our footing as women.

Sometimes, though,  finding your footing only comes from falling on your ass.  (Sorry for the crassness, but it is true.)  From that vantage point you get a real feel for what you want in life.  I think in one way or another, we all ended up on the floor.  I know I certainly did.  But the beautiful part to this story was that none of us stayed down.  One thing about practicing living as a grand creature is you learn to be resilient.  One by one, we reinvented ourselves.  But we have never let go of those bonds and have never stopped reflecting to one another the dynamic essence we saw in one another.

That circle of women and the group of Creatives who arrived to help usher in a celebration of creativity and expressiveness were the ones who set the foundation of The Creativity Tribe for me.  In my mind, they are the elders of this tribe.  They are out in the world doing amazing things, all of them creative and filled with loving intent.  I am so proud to be OF them.  The work I do here is about holding a space for others to discover their own seeds of possibility, to step into their big, wild dreams and live from authenticity.  Today’s gift from Milena was a very sweet message to her circle on Facebook of the work she saw me doing.  It was a gift.

Who in your life is living from a place of possibility, authenticity, wildness, or resilience?  Let them know in some small, quiet act.  Let’s start giving/gifting to one another and start looking for the places where our gifting comes back to bless us.  And if you would,  drop a note here to the Creativity Tribe about how this project touches your life.


I have been in my studio smock all day, hands drenched in paint, music blaring…getting ready for Feather’s Beauty Lounge’s Trunk Show and the South Side Farmer’s Market Arts and Craft Show.  Having a blast!

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